Center of mass in special and general relativity and its role in an effective description of spacetime

In this contribution, we suggest the approach that geometric concepts ought to be defined in terms of physical operations involving quantum matter. In this way it is expected that some (presumably nocive) idealizations lying deep within the roots of the notion of spacetime might be excluded. In particular, we consider that spacetime can be probed only with physical (and therefore extended) particles, which can be effectively described by coordinates that fail to commute by a term proportional to the spin of the particles.